Free Steady Love Tools
A little help for the moments when love gets hard.
Small, practical tools to help you understand what is happening beneath your reactions, recognize the patterns between you, and create more connection in everyday life.
Choose the tool that fits what you need right now.
Through relationship classes, podcast conversations, and couples counseling.
Free Tools
“We keep getting pulled into the same pattern.”
Protective Cycle Mini-Map
See what happens when protection takes over between you—and begin identifying the pattern that keeps pulling you apart.
“I know I’m reacting—but I don’t always know why.”
What’s Underneath My Reaction?
A guided tool to help you slow down a reaction and explore the emotions, meanings, and softer places that may be underneath it.
“We’re doing okay. We just need to stay connected.”
Weekly Steady Love Check-In
A simple weekly practice to help you notice what’s going well, talk about what needs attention, and stay connected before little things become big things.
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Not Sure Which Tool You Need?
If you keep having the same fight:
Start with the Protective Cycle Mini-Map.
If you want to understand your own reaction:
Start with What’s Underneath My Reaction?
If you want a simple habit for staying connected:
Start with the Weekly Steady Love Check-In.
There’s no wrong place to begin. Choose the tool that feels most useful right now.
When You’re Ready to Go Deeper
Free tools can help you notice what is happening in a difficult moment.
The Steady Love courses help you understand the larger patterns underneath those moments—and practice new ways of responding over time.